I refuse to feel sorry for myself.
Okay, say it with me now (like you actually mean it)..I refuse to feel sorry for myself.
Sadly, shitty things happen to some of the most lovely people. The way I see it, there are only two real ways of “dealing with it”.
1. You can throw yourself a pity party and see how many other people will join you (not the recommended method).
or
2. You can use the shitty thing that happened as an opportunity for growth.
Sometimes it takes hitting what you believe to be “rock bottom” to realize how amazing of a human being you truly are. Unfortunately, it’s not as easy as it sounds. When you are actually in that dark place, the last thing you want is light or having somebody tell you what you should be doing / how you need to be feeling (am I right, or am I right?) As annoying as those people can be, take their advice. Listen to them. You might think its all bullshit now, but honey, in a few days/weeks/months/years when you actually reach rock bottom you are going to wish you would have in the first place. A good thing to keep in mind (always) is that you are in charge of your own happiness. Don’t let your happiness rely on that of somebody else’s. Happiness does not come with any Terms & Conditions. Along with that, you do not owe anyone anything…at all. (Okay, maybe your parentals for bringing you into existence. But other than that..no one!) Now is the time to, “do you”. To discover yourself, who you are as an individual. & let’s be real, all of those shitty situations help to shape and mold you into the beautiful creation you are today and who you will continue to become. Thats the curious thing about life..it is always changing, growing, moving. Life never stops, it never slows down. SO why waste your time dwelling on negative, when the positive is right in front of you. Hell, the positive is probably the negative in disguise…think about it. Every situation has a turning point, it is up to you to realize that & to use that as a jumping off point.
Just a little food for thought on this fine Friday afternoon.
Besos, Alex
just a spoonful of sugar 
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